Hospitable Acts: Putting Your Phone on Mute

The other day I read a beautiful story from Janna at Simple Life Journey about her friend Emily. Emily does something altogether revolutionary in this day & age of instant communication by turning her ringing phone off while she is conversing with Janna. Janna becomes stunned & even allows Emily to answer the phone. What is Emily’s response?

“Janna, I am spending time with you. I will call back whoever it was when I get a chance.”

What immediately struck me was Emily showing her hospitality to Janna. She was choosing to be present to her friend in the flesh, not driven by a device, or a call from some other person not in front of her. It’s so Jesus–that’s what makes it attractive.

 

Time after time we see Jesus stopping to take notice of people. He wouldn’t be rushed or told to move on, simply because there was “something” better. When the little children came, he welcomed them & didn’t brush them off. When the crowds in 5,000+ came, it was Jesus who corrected his disciples by telling them he wouldn’t leave them, because it was too overwhelming.

I think technology is a good thing. Heck, I’m using my Mac to write this. I also have an Iphone. I’m not going to be a person who is going to get on my soapbox of why TV is of the devil, or a smartphone either. We can look at the story in Genesis 11 about the Tower of Babel. Here the people had the technological advances of brick. They were industrious, which isn’t bad. Inventing & using modern technology is NOT a bad thing. The conflict arises when they use modern technology for bad; rather, than for the advancement of good. The same is true in our 21st century world of technology; but, how has the advent of instant gratification bring about seclusion & rejection of people who are within our immediate sphere?

Janna’s friend Emily knew where her phone was ranked. She was not controlled by her it, but placed Janna higher. I love how the value of people is always, always the most important. It’s rudimentary in practising hospitality. When we spend our time texting, answering phone calls, or checking other updates on our phones, while in the presence of a friend or loved one, we are communicating that they come second.

And friends, I have fallen to this on many occasion. I bring my phone to the table while my girls are eating lunch, because I’m more interested in what is happening out there; rather, than what’s happening right here. I am guilty of this very act I write of & want my character shaped by the transforming love & death of Jesus by always placing people above things. Hospitality most often starts in these small ways. In fact, I would see that it’s through these little disciplines teaching us to value each interaction we have with another person as absolutely fundamental in cultivating a hospitable heart. It is our job as Christians to set forth the precedant on what love looks like, which is to love every.single.person. Because, every person is made in the image of the triune God & he gets angry when we do not see the other as his Palace Temple.

Friends, I earnestly desire to love like this & earnestly desire that the Body of the resurrected Lord would love like this to the ends of the Earth. That our drive would be like that of the hospitable Jesus, who came to heal the sick, the lame, the broken…by being present with them in their need. I need your help in this. We need one another to know how to graciously walk this road.

 

How can we set the phone on mute to be mindful of the hospitable Jesus in our presence? Thoughts? Comments?

 


 

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8 thoughts on “Hospitable Acts: Putting Your Phone on Mute

  1. I love this! I think we forget in cell-phone age that you don't HAVE to always answer! Back in the day we didn't worry about who was calling when we weren't home because our phone wasn't strapped to us. There's some freedom there that I miss even though I wouldn't ever give up my cell. Thanks for the good reminder to be present with the people in front of us!

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  2. I completely hear you on this Kara. How then do we become purposeful & intentional in our day to day lives to avoid the technological trap? How do we use this good gift for good & not evil?

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  3. I need to do better at this. For so many years, I had to at least check who was calling because of our daughter's medical issues. But it's been three years since she passed, and I don't need to be that way any more. It's a hard pattern to break — thinking the worst all the time. One thing I do at home is leave my phone in the kitchen to charge at night. If I don't bring it into our room, I'm more present for my husband. But I think that putting it on mute more often will help too — there's something about the alerts that are almost irresistible to me. but if I don't hear them, I'm not tormented by them!p.s. I've really enjoyed your posts since Relevant. I read them all this morning. So glad to have met you.

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  4. thank you Joy for your honesty. I like charging my phone in the kitchen. I have turned off notifications, because it sucks me in too easily as well. I totally understand answering your phone with Ellie's medical issues–I would be the same. thank you for reading & I am glad to have met you as well.

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  5. Hi Kamille, I love this post! I too used to put my phone at the table until my husband banned all electronics, including TV in the background because everyone down to our 1 year old would be drawn to it and not each other. Thanks for bringing such an important issue to the blogging table!!

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  6. It's refreshing when our husbands make a firm stand about something that might appear so remote. I had a staunch stand on keeping the tv in the basement away from the eating area. I like it that way the best.

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  7. Kamille, I loved this post. I actually thought of it today as I had lunch with a friend. I turned my phone on silent and flipped it over so I couldn't see it. What a great way to tie in how Jesus treated people into "our times".By the way, I found your blog through Hope with Feathers and I am wanted to say how truly sorry I am to hear about your miscarriage.

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  8. MalisaI'm so glad that you were able to practice it & I didn't completely think about it as Jesus in "our times," but you're so right & I love it even more. And I totally remember you from Twitter. Your friends with Kristen & needed help with the comment section. Have a great weekend.Kamille

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