June 13th, 2002 stood still with an unexpected heatwave. It was a Thursday. Family & friends came in from out of town, my to be mother-in-law turned 50 just the day before. We drove to the country of cow manure & pristine lawns Our church building stood in disarray. We pretendedContinue reading “Muggy Church Building, One Elementary School Cafeteria & 10 Years”
Category Archives: Marriage & Relationships
Raw Chocolate Hazelnut Cookies with Orange Zest

How Can I Find “the One?”
“Mama! And then the prince came & they got married!” exclaimed my little princess loving Tay. I’m a mom of two little girls with pink & dresses holding stock in our home. My Tay is all things girl, as she dons a dress everyday twirling with delight. When asked what she wants to be whenContinue reading “How Can I Find “the One?””
31 Days of Myers-Briggs :: Day 5 Tools & Communication
If you’re new to this series, then I recommend taking a look at the other days. Day 1: Introduction Day 2: What do the Letters Mean? Day 3: Where I’m coming from, the Nature vs Nurture of Personality Day 4: Synoposis of the Four Personality Types In understanding more about the Four PersonalityContinue reading “31 Days of Myers-Briggs :: Day 5 Tools & Communication”
Introduction to Myers-Briggs
We were getting shoes on our kids, while Talia said very matter of fact, “Kamille, you should charge $15 & do a Saturday workshop!” “A workshop on what?,” I gingerly inquired. “A Myers-Briggs workshop. It doesn’t have to be very formal. You can speak & print up some handouts,” she responded very non-nonchalantly,Continue reading “Introduction to Myers-Briggs”
What You May Not Hear About Marriage
June 14, 2002 The rising anticipation of the wedding day has so many expectations for a young bride & groom. Ben & I had been dating just shy of four years, while I had been planning & planning for the day we would finally affirm our love before God, family & friends. In fact, IContinue reading “What You May Not Hear About Marriage”
Chocolate Truffle Cupcakes
If you’re a chocolate lover then proceed. If you’re not, well I’m sorry, but maybe you will be a chocolate liker after trying these. I made well over 200 of these Chocolate Truffle Cupcakes for my friend’s wedding (Jason & Tina) while I was 7 months pregnant. I realized two things after that baking extravaganza of ’08. One is no matter how much I love someone, never again will I say yes to baking all the desserts for a large party while that pregnant and carrying for a 20 month old. Two, is how easy these are to make–no one will know otherwise.
I think I can get these out in 40 minutes, which is pretty excellent for a sophisticated dessert. They are also very adaptable with your chocolate liking. You could use all bittersweet (typically 60%), semisweet, or milk chocolate. You can mix different varieties as well. You can make them gluten-free. You can make them in big muffin tins or miniature ones. If you want to add a bit of espresso to bring out the chocolate flavor even more–then do it. I love these for all those reasons. And I can’t understand why I haven’t shared them until now.
Before we go onto the recipe, I should share a bit about my gluten-intolerant friend Tina who these were intended for and I’ve written about before. We met through one of her ex-boyfriends and I knew we were kindred spirits. She has a quiet reserve about her (at least when compared to her husband), but she is full of life with joy emanating from her. Although she seems to fill administrative jobs, which she’s wonderfully gifted at, her heart is passionate for women fulfilling their God given talents & calling. We have spent many hours talking about our dreams of what we will become when we grow up and I can depend upon her to watch very cheesy movies together. I can always count on her to be supportive, honest & spontaneous with me. So when she found out she was gluten-intolerant, I knew my job was set to bake GF treats for her.
Double Chocolate Truffle Cupcakes (printable recipe)
Recipe is inspired from Martha Stewart. This is also the time to use good quality chocolate, since it is the star ingredient. However, don’t let that stop you if you only have chocolate chips on hand. I’ve used semi-sweet chocolate chips before and they turn out great.
Ingredients:
5 Tb unsalted butter
7 ounces milk chocolate chopped, Belcolade
7 ounces 71% cacao dark bittersweet chopped, Valhrona
1 Tb sugar
1 Tb brown rice flour (or all-purpose flour)
2 eggs
1 tsp salt
Butter & extra flour for muffin tins
Directions: Preheat oven to 325 degrees. Butter & flour a 6 slot large muffin tin & set aside. Set a heat proof bowl over a pot with simmering water. Add the butter & chocolate. Stir to melt and combine. Remove from heat.
Add the eggs & sugar to a food processor & process for 2 minutes until light in color & foamy. Add flour & salt, process to combine (10 seconds). Add about 1/4 cup of melted chocolate to eggs & process till combined. Continue with 1/4 cup until all of the melted chocolate is mixed with the egg mixture.
Evenly distribute chocolate mixture to the prepared muffin tin. Gently pat down tops with the back of silver spoon. Bake for 18 to 20 minutes. Cool on a rack. Loosen with a knife around the edges and serve.
**12 cup regular muffin tin bake for 13-15 minutes.
**24 cup miniature muffin tin bake for 10-12 minutes.
Great topped with sliced strawberries, fresh raspberries, a raspberry puree, or ice cream.
P.A.C. Crisp (pear, apple, cranberry)

Crisp ala mode, what could be better?
Yesterday we had an Autumn Family gathering with the other families from our playgroup we go to Thursday mornings. I made this delicious crisp, along with the help of my trusty 2.75 year old assistant. I have to say that this crisp is exceptionally tasty. No, let’s not kid ourselves…it’s a complete foreshadow of everything Autumn (which is a GOOD thing indeed).
I was looking for something rustic, simple, and a ‘knock your socks off type of good,’ to make for dessert. I actually had never made it before, but I knew my Ina Garten hadn’t let me down so far, and her Barefoot Contessa at Home cookbook would for sure have a crisp recipe. I made a few adjustments from the original recipe, by using rapadura sugar, whole wheat pastry flour, using cranberries instead of dried, and adding cardamom (since there was orange in the recipe, cardamom screamed to be used). All of these made it taste great, especially the addition of cardamom.

The pears, apples, & cranberries sitting in sugary, spicy goodness.
Since my two year old helped make the crisp, she couldn’t stop talking about it the rest of the afternoon. The party was at 4:00 and she still needed to take a nap. She had a bit of a meltdown when I informed her that we weren’t going to the party quite yet, because she needed to take a nap. Her eyes quickly filled up with tears and some speaking in tongues began, to which effect something about not being able to eat the crisp was murmured. Poor girl, she even got a bit anxious as we were walking up to our friend’s door, where she looked around for the crisp then blurted with panic, “CRISP! CRISP?” And yes, she was the only kid at the dinner table eating her crisp after dinner, while all the others were playing downstairs (Then, was it bad to serve this for breakfast to her? I did put my foot down and say no to the ice cream she requested).
The crumb crust before entering the oven. Yes it’s a lot of topping, but keep piling it on.
And it must be said that I adore all of these ladies whom I get to share life with (almost) every week. We have been meeting weekly since just after V’s first birthday, which is almost two years now. I love how we have our similarities and differences, yet we still choose to be more than co-mothers, but friends. Each one of them brings a different gift to my life as a woman, wife & mom. There isn’t judgment on how we parent different or how we fail, but grace, because we understand (period). I also love how everyone is real & genuine. No one comes in with a, “Wow, I LOVE being a mother every second of the day (or everyday for that matter).” But there’s also not this, “Whoa, I hate being a mom and my kid is a….”
Instead, it’s a sincerity and a realness of “this mothering/parenting job is hard, and I don’t always like it, and I’m not going to be fake and make you think it’s the best job in the whole world 100% of the time. But I do value something higher, which means I will give up some of my rights, in order to provide my children with something greater. I not only value something higher, but love these stinkers so deep it hurts and am willing to go above & beyond for them.” That’s who these women are to me and I love them for it. So thanks Biz, Lindsey, Becky, Christine, Bethany, Megan & Talia–my Thursday mornings (although always running late & a bit disheveled) are my diamond in the rough as a stay at home mom and you ladies’ bring out a different spectrum of light in my diamond.
Last year’s Halloween party before many of the siblings were born.
P.A.C. Crisp (pear, apple, cranberry) (printable recipe)
Recipe is adapted from the Barefoot Contessa at Home cookbook. **A little side note: If you’re not familiar with other sugars like rapadura, I would encourage you to start baking & cooking with them. I get mine from the bulk section at our local Co-op, which is cheaper than buying it pre-packaged in the health/natural section of your grocery store.** The recipe also called for Macoun apples, but I used what I had on hand and I’m not too particular when the recipe calls for say ‘Granny Smith.’ Instead, I use what I know could create a good end product and wouldn’t dissolve into mush (say Red Delicious). My apples came from a friend’s tree, so I have no idea what they are called.
Ingredients:
3 ripe Bosc pears
5 apples (I have no idea what kind I used)
3/4 cup frozen cranberries (that’s what I had on hand, but you could use fresh)
1 teaspoon grated orange zest
1 teaspoon grated lemon zest
Squeezed juice of one orange
Squeezed juice of one lemon
1/2 cup evaporated cane juice sugar (this is sugar which is less refined and has a golden color to it)
1/4 cup unbleached all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg
1/4 teaspoon ground cardamom
Topping:
1 1/2 cups whole wheat pastry flour
1/2 cup granulated sugar
1/2 cup light brown sugar
1/2 cup rapadura sugar (however, I know most people don’t have this, so do 3/4 of the above sugars)
1/2 teaspoon kosher salt
1 cup old-fashioned oats
1/2 pound (2 sticks) unsalted butter
Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
Peel and core the pears & apples. Cut them into large chunks. Put the fruit into a large bowl, toss with cranberries, zests, juices, sugar, flour, cinnamon, nutmeg, & cardamom. Pour into a 9×13 baking dish.
For the topping, combine the flour, sugars, salt, oatmeal and cold butter in the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with a paddle attachment. Mix on low speed for 1 to 2 minutes, or until the mixture is in large crumbles. Sprinkle evenly over the fruit, covering the fruit completely. You’ll notice that this is a lot of crisp topping, but keep packing it on and you won’t be disappointed.
Place the baking dish on a parchment-lined sheet pan. Bake for 50 minutes to 1 hour, until the top is brown and the fruit is bubbly. Serve warm (with vanilla ice cream to live on the wild side).
Maybe sitting by the fire eating the crisp with this little cutie could be better.
Tina’s PSL
PSL
What exactly is a PSL you ask? I had the same question as I was reading a good friend’s Facebook status. She wrote that she had her first PSL of the season and then a lot of Fall connotations. What was worst were the people commenting as if they had a clue as to what this PSL she spoke of. It was finally about 8 hours when enlightenment hit. The acronym code was broken…”Pumpkin Spice Latte!!”

Now it must be said that I am personally not a huge pumpkin fan. There are those who love everything pumpkin, those who cannot stand it, and those who are a bit impartial. Growing up I didn’t like anything pumpkin. For instance, the only pumpkin pie available in my house during Thanksgiving was the one from the grocery store. Neither mom or dad did much of baking pumpkin quick bread, pumpkin cookies, or pumpkin anything. Funny thing is when I entered college I got back to my middle school roots of home economics and my love of baking & cooking, which eventually led me to the “pumpkin.”
mise en place
I feel like one true sign of an affinity to baking is when you use ingredients that you may not personally adore, but use them to bless others that do. This is pumpkin for me (to some degree, as I’m not a lover nor a hater). However, you wouldn’t know this as I buy a sweet meat squash every year fall, bake it, puree it and freeze parts of it for later use. I guess most of this is aside from the point, well…onto the recipe I found for making your very own PSL at home.
Frothed & Steamed Pumpkin Spiced Milk
Shots of espresso
I definitely think this is intended for whipped cream, don’t skimp!
PSL (Pumpkin Spice Latte)
This recipe is taken from Baking and Books, with a little adaptation.
Ingredients:
1 cup milk (use whatever kind you typically drink)
a pinch of ground cloves
1/8 teaspoon ground nutmeg
1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1 1/2 Tablespoons pumpkin puree
1/2 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
1/2 tablespoon raw sugar or rapadura sugar (these are different & I used rapadura as I’m trying to use less refined sugars)
2 shots of espresso
2 tablespoons half & half
1-3 teaspoons raw sugar
Whipped cream
Combine milk, cloves, nutmeg, cinnamon, pumpkin puree, vanilla & 1/2 tablespoon sugar in a blender. Blend till frothy. Steam milk mixture to 160 degrees, or you can heat in a pan on top of the stove over low-medium heat till milk is 160 (be sure to stir if on top of stove).
Pull two espresso shots and pour in cup. Add warmed pumpkin milk, along with 1 tablespoon half & half, to your shots of espresso. If you taste your latte at this point all you will taste is spiced flavored milk and it’s not as appealing, so add however many teaspoons of sugar to the pumpkin milk until it reaches the right sweetness factor. Top with as much whipped cream as you’d like. Sprinkle a bit of nutmeg on top and cozy up to a good book.
(clockwise) Cinnamon, nutmeg, cloves & rapadura sugar
**I would say the one downside to this recipe is the last two drinks, because the spices settle to the bottom of the cup leaving a bit of spice soot. I think the only way to counter this would be to seep the milk in whole cloves, nutmeg & cinnamon sticks; however, that would take a much longer time than it’s worth.
Something Quick

So I made this yummy Salmon Chowder last night for our small group gathering, but I don’t have the recipe as it was a do it as I go sort of thing. The greatest part to me was the pureed celery root, which if you’ve never tried it you truly must and this is the season to do it. Quick, go do it before time runs out.
Aside from the salmon chowder, I have to say that I love my small group and how it’s made up. We are in this transition period. You know the transition of figuring out how to meet together, have adult conversations, while seven little monkeys all under the age of 3 are running, crying, & shouting around the house. Nonetheless, we’re figuring out our rhythms and it just might be working.
We meet twice a month as a large group where we share dinner. I make the main dish and everyone brings something else to share. It’s this beautiful meld of hospitality at it’s finest. We see each other as we are, much like the dishes we bring. The food doesn’t have to compliment one another, be exquisite, or honestly, it doesn’t even have to taste the best. What it is is that we are simply taking time to breathe, love, & enjoy one another.
Our meal last night was salmon chowder (which I took inventory of what I had and threw it in the pot), leftover salad from the previous night and some corn thrown in on top, freshly picked blueberries with sliced strawberries, and sliced watermelon from the day before. Then, there’s our group, a campus pastor, stay-at-home moms, linguist, financial advisor, nutritionist & physical trainer, baker & cook, horse instructor, engineering, & economist.
There is a realness and understanding that we don’t have it together, that we might come grumpy and distraught, that marriage isn’t easy when you have toddlers and babies, and we might even say some stupid, “why did I just say that?” sort of things. It’s not perfect, it’s not polished, and sometimes it’s not always fun, but I would say that there is a mutual appreciation, respect, honesty & love, which permeates through our gatherings.
Here’s something quick you can pull out with company, your family, or give to someone who needs it. It’s a combination of sweet, tangy & crunchy.

Cabbage-Apple Salad (printable recipe)
This recipe is adapted from Epicurious
Ingredients:
half of green cabbage, sliced thinly
2 apples, sliced thinly
1 cup chopped pecans
2 teaspoons butter
2 tablespoons brown sugar
1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce
pinch of cayenne pepper
pinch of kosher salt
1/8 cup olive oil
1 teaspoon dijon mustard
2 tablespoon rice vinegar
1 tablespoon apple cider vinegar
Prepare:
Put butter in a skillet over medium-high heat till melted. Add pecans and stir to coat them. Cook while stirring for about one minute. Add brown sugar, Worcestershire sauce, cayenne & salt; stir till nuts are coated, about 1 minute. Transfer nuts to foil or parchment paper to cool.
Combine olive oil, rice vinegar, apple cider vinegar, & dijon mustard. Stir to combine & set aside.
Put your sliced cabbage & apples in a bowl. Add your nuts and pour dressing on top. Combine and serve.


Maybe sitting by the fire eating the crisp with this little cutie could be better.